tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post6535226068070735442..comments2024-02-27T22:21:18.717-08:00Comments on Toom-ah? What Stinkin' Toom-ah!: Another SeizureUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-63131767850344840292013-02-27T16:51:02.084-08:002013-02-27T16:51:02.084-08:00So sorry for your troubles Jess. Praying for you ...So sorry for your troubles Jess. Praying for you and hoping God will comfort you and give you peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-82127164519935634702013-02-27T09:33:17.271-08:002013-02-27T09:33:17.271-08:00All of us have friends that sometimes we feel &quo...All of us have friends that sometimes we feel "let us down". It does not mean the end of a friendship, or that they don't love us. It does not mean that they don't want us around, or that we are a liability. It means we do not agree on something, simply put. I have had many let downs by friends, later finding out, that is certainly not how it was meant! I tend to make my own reasons for other people's decisions, ( I am not good at it!). If the intention is with love and care, it is a good intention, even if we do not agree with it. I am sure your buds are trying to make the best decision for you, and for them, that's fair. I can only imagine that this hurts you, no matter what the intention, I am so sorry. Yes, you did have brain surgery, but you have such a tender heart, God bless and heal that tender heart. I pray for you that you can feel the love and support coming your way through this computer! I agree with the comment above about the lack of good communication from your friends. However, they probably were trying to not hurt your feelings, while trying to make a hard choice. Oh sometimes we are such girls!! I have thin skin, and I need to learn to not take everything so personal, good thing I'm still young (58?). Please know you are loved, remember that, and you are prayed for. Now, I hope you can breathe in the goodness of the day, and of life, and hold on to all the blessings that surround you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-78041141488748122122013-02-27T08:18:05.218-08:002013-02-27T08:18:05.218-08:00Dear Jess,
Perhaps your friends did not handle the...Dear Jess,<br />Perhaps your friends did not handle the situation & communication in the best way. Can't imagine they would not have your best interest at heart & thought they were doing the right thing out of their love & concern for your. Would it have been better to openly discuss it all with you-yes ! I hope you can leave the communication door open & they will be in touch with you to talk about what happened & why. Did they tell you the truth in their minds is that you are a liability or are those your feeling ? You have been through so very much in the past months with surgery, several trips, no MRI results, a seizure etc. I would humbly submit that maybe your friends made the right choice in your best interest but mishandled how it was communicated to you ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-37966251599230725782013-02-27T07:52:48.932-08:002013-02-27T07:52:48.932-08:00My heart aches for you sweet girl!! I am so sorry...My heart aches for you sweet girl!! I am so sorry you had a siezure and that it leaves you, once again, to be in such a questioning position. I am so sorry that you are hurting!! I hope that your friends are reaching out to you with explainations that help you better understand their choice that led to such a feeling of rejection. I would hope that all of your close friends would choose to be with you no matter what your emotional of physical state--just to be by your side and support you. I hope that they know that being your true friend means being with you even when it may not be the "funnest" but simply because they have the opportunity to be with you at all! I know of many times in my life where I have been asked to participate in things I know or wonder if I will enjoy, but choose to do so because my loyalty to the friend asking me and the moments I cherish with her always outweigh the actual activity we may have planned. For instance, if you asked me to go running with you I would say ABSOLUTELY! even thought I hate running, would probably have to use my inhaler and you would lap me three times...but it would all be worth it to be in your presence! And if you stopped and waited to me to catch up and pick myself up off of the ground it would melt my heart. :) Please know how loved you are, and that ALL of the things you listed affect your body, mind and perceptions as they are all draining physically and emotionally. I will be ok. Today may be hard, but it will be ok!<br /><br />Much love always, MalekaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-30948667026686868482013-02-27T05:35:31.925-08:002013-02-27T05:35:31.925-08:00Don't be too hard on your friends or yourself....Don't be too hard on your friends or yourself. I am sure that they feel just as bad as you. They love you more than anything and want the best for you. Just think what's it like to be in their shoes. They want to help more than anything but don't know what to do. And more than anything they don't want to push you into anything that would make if more difficult for you or wear you down. It's just as frustrating for them as well. It was difficult for my family to let me make the decisions on how I was feeling or what I wanted to all do and how much I should be doing, and sometimes I didn't know better myself and they were right. So take it easy - on you - and them. They love you LOTS! holyjakershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13905217644659990066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-65594471739934276772013-02-26T16:20:50.626-08:002013-02-26T16:20:50.626-08:00I don't know how close these friends really ar...I don't know how close these friends really are to you but I would have hoped they would have suggested another gathering with you that they deemed less stressful in order to compensate for their "fear" of what might happen. Kind of like saying hey we are worried about you doing 'x' so how about we all go out and do 'y' instead. So sorry for the feelings of rejection it causes - I can only imagine how it would feel given your situation because I would definitely feel left out. Try not to take it too hard though. You are doing incredibly and maybe they are unable to take on the responsibility or guilt they might feel if something happens. Sorry you had a seizure but as you always seem to do, listen to your body and give it the rest it needs. Your running and activity is incredible considering what you've been through. You are right too - jet lag is extremely hard on your body when there is nothing else going on. <br /><br />Are you a journaler at all? Does it help to write out all of your thoughts and feelings - just scribble them out on the page. Sometimes that seems like a brain dump to me which unloads some of the anger, sadness, fear, etc. <br /><br />Thinking good thoughts for you and Danny. And I hope you get the MRI results back soon too.<br /><br />Julene =) SmileyGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04158813269594410883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6951027584834725236.post-41060845637277870982013-02-26T15:58:40.288-08:002013-02-26T15:58:40.288-08:00Shoot - all that you're going through medicall... Shoot - all that you're going through medically etc aside, I'd be ridiculously upset over the UN-invite alone, not to mention all that it implies! That kind of uneasiness is the sort of thing that we take to our dreams so it's compelling that your seizure struck while you were sleeping. <br /> Do try and remember that it is possible (???) that your friends are not dismissing you due to inconvenience...perhaps they fear that your desire to participate is stifling some rational thought and that you are not acknowledging - what they assume to be - your own limitations. It is very likely that they do care and are making a sort of "health care proxy" decision on your behalf. <br /> Quite frankly, going for a run and then rehydrating with alcohol and liquor doesn't sound like a brilliant idea for anyone, regardless of health! (Sorry - that's just my 2 cents! :) <br /> Take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com